Why Prioritizing Your Partner Is Prioritizing Yourself

As we go through life, our priorities tend to change throughout the years. If you have kids, they are often a priority as they grow. If you are ambitious, perhaps your career is your number one priority. 

What about your relationship, though? Are you prioritizing your partner? If not, you really should.


Because your partner’s happiness impacts not only them and the health of your relationship, but so many aspects of your life as well.

This can feel like a large undertaking, but it is possible. Here are a few ways you can work to ensure your partner is your first priority and the benefits you will reap in your life when you do.

Benefits Of Putting Your Partner First

What can you gain from making changes that prioritize your relationship? A lot!

The biggest benefit is a relationship that lasts. It’s no secret that couples who work to make their relationship a priority feel safe and connected in that relationship. Also, the passion remains alive and well, which can only help to make your relationship last longer.

Another benefit is to your own family. If you have children, then they will thrive in an environment where their parents show love and support. Witnessing a healthy relationship between parents also helps to provide a foundation for a child’s self-esteem and behaviors they will model in their own relationships as they get older.

There are so many ways that prioritizing your relationship can make your life more satisfying and make you happier along the way. Take the time to invest and you will get back what you put in – with interest!

What exactly should you do?

How to Start

Most couples aren’t sure where to begin in making a conscious effort to prioritize their partner. In reality, this is a two-step process. First, you must set the intention of making your relationship the most important thing in your life. Then, you need to initiate behaviors daily that reinforce that intention.

What does this mean?

Engage with your partner in ways that show how much they mean to you. This could be as simple as giving them a hug or kiss several times throughout the day. Or making them dinner a few times per week.

Learn how your partner best receives love (make sure you know their love language!) and how you can make them feel like they’re a priority to you.

Want to learn more? We cover this topic in far greater detail in our award-winning book Rock Solid Relationship: Seven Keys to Restore Your Connection & Make Your Love Last (prioritizing your partner is under Key #1!).

Download our book here, and get started on making your relationship rock solid.