Parenting Together During the Pandemic
The COVID-19 pandemic has created all kinds of stressors, especially for parents with school-age children.
Many families are facing financial hardships. And parents must juggle working from home, chores, parenting, and often keeping virtual learning on track. All of this can turn a normally happy home into a pressure cooker , and parents everywhere are struggling to cope.
But, there are some steps you can take to parent productively together and restore some sense of normalcy, relieving tension in your marriage.
1. Streamline Online Schooling
Keeping kids on track for online learning is often overwhelming. Streamlining this process can reduce stress for parents and kids alike:
Team up with other parents.
Reach out to other parents for support and tips for keeping kids engaged. Organize virtual activities and study groups.
Connect with teachers.
Teachers are also unfamiliar with the online learning process. Reach out to your child’s teacher with feedback, and for guidance to keep your kids’ learning on track.
Create a routine.
Kids thrive with structure. Create a schedule that can be maintained on most days, and still allows for flexibility. If possible, designate a workspace for each family member.
Set goals and celebrate their completion.
Having something to look forward to can help keep kids motivated and on track. Set up small rewards, for example screen time or TV, when your kids complete assignments or learning goals.
2. Ease Your Kids’ Anxiety about COVID-19
Many kids are anxious about the COVID-19 pandemic, and understandably so — most adults are, too.
You can ease your child’s anxiety by taking some of the following steps:
Manage your own worries first.
Kids will pick up on your anxiety if you talk to your children in an anxious state. Take some steps to educate yourself, and to ease your own fear and anxiety.
Find out what your children have been told about the pandemic.
And clear up any misconceptions.
Talk at an age-appropriate level to explain the pandemic.
Don’t volunteer too much information, as this can cause your childrens’ imaginations to run a little wild. Instead, try to answer questions they have.
Focus on what you can control.
Educate your kids on safety precautions that can be taken.
3. Make Time for Yourselves and the Relationship
To be an effective parent and partner, it’s important to spend some alone time. Take some steps to create healthy space for one another, allowing both of you to spend at least a few hours alone and sans kids a few times every week.
Also be sure to take care of your relationship. Spend some time with just the two of you, whether to relax and decompress or rekindle your romance.
If you find yourself facing difficulties, don’t be afraid to reach out and get help. Contact Norene Gonsiewski and Tim Higdon for couples coaching and relationship advice.
Online Therapy Sessions: Get Help Now
Both Tim and Norene have been offering online couple’s sessions for years. Rest assured, we’re experts at helping you set things up on your end.
It will be some time before you can safely attend in-person sessions, so we have created a system that will help you now. Not months from now when things in your relationship have exploded.
If you need individual help with anxiety or depression during this time, we can help with that, too.