How to Prevent a Sexless Marriage

How to Prevent a Sexless Marriage “He leaves for work at 4 a.m., and he’s in a coma by 9.” “I work late into the evening, and manage the kids’ crazy morning routine before mine.” “We both have a lot going on right now.” “We’re just in a slump.” “It’s not like she’s interested when I try to make a move...

Make Love, Not Cookies

Make Love, Not Cookies Decades ago, on a late night I was up past the family bedtime making chocolate chip cookies. I was a young married woman busy with a toddler and a growing marriage counseling practice, and I wanted to show my husband my love and appreciation. For some reason it...

Four Tips to Stop Four Tips to Stop Nagging

Four Tips to Stop Four Tips to Stop Nagging Throughout your marriage, you will have many requests for your partner. To do the dishes more often, to spend more time planning dates, to pay more attention to you when you are telling a story. These requests aren’t unreasonable, and they should be validated by your...

Argue Less with the Help of a Relationship Coach

Argue Less with the Help of a Relationship Coach Arguments can feel like a chokehold, squeezing the life and love out of a relationship. Of course, every couple argues from time to time — but problem comes when you can’t stop arguing. It doesn’t have to be this way, though. There are three steps that...

Why We Shame, Blame, and Criticize

Why We Shame, Blame, and Criticize “You never fill up the car! We could have been stranded!” “I’m not the one who decided their friends were more important than our anniversary!” “Well, maybe saving wouldn’t take so long if you weren’t stopping at Starbucks twice a day.” When you’re in a long-term...

The Impact of Complaining on Your Relationship

The Impact of Complaining on Your Relationship We think that complaints are about fixing or resolving a specific issue bothering us. But here’s the thing: relationship problems are almost never resolved when someone complains. It doesn’t matter if your complaint is about clothes on the floor, always having to do...