For many people, “boundaries” can be a confusing word. After all, aren’t you supposed to remove boundaries between you and your partner? Don’t you want them to be the first person you turn to for your emotional needs? Absolutely! In fact, that’s the point. The...
Unfortunately, many couples see disagreements or conflict as a sign that the relationship is not strong or not meant to be. They’ve gotten the idea from movies or society that the perfect couple doesn’t have disagreements. Do not fall for this fantasy. We’ve worked...
You might be surprised to know that our brains are not so different than the brains of the first humans. This is especially true when it comes to “danger.” Back in more primitive times, “danger” often meant something like a saber-toothed tiger or rushing rapids....
It’s usually way easier to tell your partner “I love you” than to do things to show that love. However, in satisfying relationships, both partners take regular action to show their love in addition to verbally expressing it. In our book Rock Solid Relationship: Seven...
Finding love can be hard. But keeping your love strong may be even harder. That’s why we wrote our book Rock Solid Relationship: Seven Keys to Restore Your Connection and Make Your Love Last. It provides an in-depth look at how so many people who find love end up...
Off-hand comments from family, teasing from friends, broken hearts, maybe even experiences of abuse and humiliation – these are the stones with which we build our walls for self-defense. The mind and memory are a powerful team in protecting you from your...
You have the right to expect certain things from a long-term relationship. Your partner should want to spend time with you, for instance. There should be interest in at least some of your thoughts and opinions. They should also be able to show you affection and...
Think about the following situations. You’re trying to tell your partner about the mess in your home, but their eyes are glued to the TV. Your concerns are met with, “Mm-hmm” and a half-hearted, “Sure.” A few weeks after you and your partner discussed an issue, you...
How much time do you spend with your partner? How much of that time is quality time? Time spent isn’t quality time if you and your partner are sitting in the same house, but engrossed in your phones or the television. Quality time is spent without distractions,...
No marriage is perfect. Most couples experience a breach of trust at some point. It could be a lie, a betrayal, or even infidelity. But these breaches of trust don’t always signal an unhappy marriage. In one study, 56% of men who admitted to infidelity said that they...
For many people, “boundaries” can be a confusing word. After all, aren’t you supposed to remove boundaries between you and your partner? Don’t you want them to be the first person you turn to for your emotional needs? Absolutely! In fact, that’s the point. The...
Unfortunately, many couples see disagreements or conflict as a sign that the relationship is not strong or not meant to be. They’ve gotten the idea from movies or society that the perfect couple doesn’t have disagreements. Do not fall for this fantasy. We’ve worked...
You might be surprised to know that our brains are not so different than the brains of the first humans. This is especially true when it comes to “danger.” Back in more primitive times, “danger” often meant something like a saber-toothed tiger or rushing rapids....
It’s usually way easier to tell your partner “I love you” than to do things to show that love. However, in satisfying relationships, both partners take regular action to show their love in addition to verbally expressing it. In our book Rock Solid Relationship: Seven...
Finding love can be hard. But keeping your love strong may be even harder. That’s why we wrote our book Rock Solid Relationship: Seven Keys to Restore Your Connection and Make Your Love Last. It provides an in-depth look at how so many people who find love end up...
Off-hand comments from family, teasing from friends, broken hearts, maybe even experiences of abuse and humiliation – these are the stones with which we build our walls for self-defense. The mind and memory are a powerful team in protecting you from your...
You have the right to expect certain things from a long-term relationship. Your partner should want to spend time with you, for instance. There should be interest in at least some of your thoughts and opinions. They should also be able to show you affection and...
Think about the following situations. You’re trying to tell your partner about the mess in your home, but their eyes are glued to the TV. Your concerns are met with, “Mm-hmm” and a half-hearted, “Sure.” A few weeks after you and your partner discussed an issue, you...
How much time do you spend with your partner? How much of that time is quality time? Time spent isn’t quality time if you and your partner are sitting in the same house, but engrossed in your phones or the television. Quality time is spent without distractions,...
No marriage is perfect. Most couples experience a breach of trust at some point. It could be a lie, a betrayal, or even infidelity. But these breaches of trust don’t always signal an unhappy marriage. In one study, 56% of men who admitted to infidelity said that they...