Why We Shame, Blame, and Criticize

Why We Shame, Blame, and Criticize “You never fill up the car! We could have been stranded!” “I’m not the one who decided their friends were more important than our anniversary!” “Well, maybe saving wouldn’t take so long if you weren’t stopping at Starbucks twice a day.” When you’re in a long-term...

The Impact of Complaining on Your Relationship

The Impact of Complaining on Your Relationship We think that complaints are about fixing or resolving a specific issue bothering us. But here’s the thing: relationship problems are almost never resolved when someone complains. It doesn’t matter if your complaint is about clothes on the floor, always having to do...

Times to Assume a Positive Outcome with Your Partner

Times to Assume a Positive Outcome with Your Partner When you’re in a long-term relationship with someone, patterns tend to develop. Routines. Expectations. This could mean that you know you’ll head to the farmer’s market every Saturday. Or that your partner needs to vent for a few minutes after coming home from work....

Strengthen Your Relationship with “Daily Sex”

Strengthen Your Relationship with “Daily Sex” First things first: daily sex doesn’t mean you and your partner should have amazing sex every single day – or even so-so sex. Instead, you should aim to engage in physical intimacy with your partner on a daily basis to keep your “sexual motors running.” This is...