Keeping your relationship fresh can start to feel difficult after a few years. It’s all too easy to fall into a routine and lose track of what makes your partner special. Finding new, unique ways to connect with your partner can make all the difference.
That’s why it’s important to shake things up. It helps make being with your partner fun and exciting — like it was when you first got together.
What are some things you can do?
Connect with Your Partner Again Using These Suggestions
Spending time together is the easiest way to connect with your partner, but it’s also easy to forget to pay attention during your day-to-day routine. If you’re like a lot of people, you might find yourself tuning them out instead of paying attention.
That’s where staycations come in.
Take a weekend — or even a week — and dedicate it to spending time with your partner. Take the time off work and spend it together.
Why staycations as opposed to traditional vacations? A couple of reasons. First, vacations cost money. They’re nice every once in a while, but most people can’t afford them regularly. Second, traveling somewhere often adds stress even as it offers exciting opportunities to explore. If you’re not careful, it can result in you sniping at each other rather than getting closer.
The more relaxed nature of staycations means you can dedicate the time to noticing each other, which can help you get closer as a couple.
Write Love Letters
Writing a love letter is good for both of you. Writing down a list of reasons you love your partner is a great way to stop taking them for granted. It will help you remember why you love them in the first place.
Meanwhile, that letter can become a touchstone for your partner, a reminder of the depths of your love. It’s a touching physical token of your affection. It might even become a cherished heirloom in the future.
Create Shared Goals
If you and your partner are living totally separate lives, it will be hard to find ways to connect. A great way to keep your connection with your partner is to set some shared goals.
These goals can be simple or complex. Maybe you want to run a marathon together. On the other hand, maybe you just want to learn a new recipe together every week.
A shared goal is a touchpoint where your daily lives intertwine. That’s a perfect way to keep your connection strong.
Spend Time Apart
This may seem counterintuitive, but it’s a great strategy for relationships that feel stale. If you spend literally all your time together, eventually things will start to feel repetitive. It can also lead to one or both of you starting to feel smothered in the relationship.
Instead, take some time apart. Cultivate hobbies that are separate from the other person. By having new experiences without your partner, you’ll have new things to talk about when you’re together again.
If you’re in a long-term relationship, it’s likely been a while since you’ve danced with your partner. It’s a romantic gesture that can fall by the wayside when you aren’t going out on dates regularly.
Turn the lights down, put on your favorite song, and dance together in your living room. The physical contact and the romantic mood can help you reconnect after even the most stressful times.
Not Quite Working? Relationship Counseling Can Also Help You Connect with Your Partner
It can be hard to connect with your partner sometimes. If you’ve tried some of these gestures and things are still difficult, don’t be afraid to reach out. We’re there for you. Contact Norene Gonsiewski and Tim Higdon for relationship counseling, and we’ll work to help you find each other again.